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Welcome to O'Connell Murphy Funeral Homes

Thank you for taking the time to visit our web site. A great deal of time and effort has gone into providing this service to our community and the families we serve. We are constantly enhancing and updating the information on our web site.

We are here for the families we serve and this community. This is obvious. A great deal of attention and detail has gone into our services and facilities to ensure that they meet each and every need.

Pre-need, at-need, after care, whatever you are looking for, we'll always be here

Mission Statement

To be recognized as the leading Funeral Home of Western New York with emphasis on excellent service to our families.

Vision Statement

To be the Funeral Home of Choice, Utilizing cutting edge technology in providing excellence in service.

Our Funeral Directors and professional staff are committed to Quality Care and enhancing our communication skills to educate families and our community about funeral service.



O'Connell-Murphy is now located at 1884 South Park Ave (same location as Nightengale Funeral Home).

Address: 1884 South Park Ave • Buffalo, New York 14220

Phone Number: 716-823-0124

VISITATION ROOMS: We offer causal living room style seating, that feature large screens for viewing DVD photo collages and celebrating the life of your loved one.

FAMILY ROOM: We offer a room where the family can meet with clergy to finalize the funeral service in a private setting.

PARKING: We offer ample and well lit parking

HANDICAP ACCESSIBLE: Our facility has a single floor plan so access to the funeral home does not include stairs or ramps.

I invite you to come see our facility.

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The New York State Department of Health requires all Funeral Directors to furnish an itemized memorandum of funeral expenses at the time of arrangements. We have provided you with this detailed memorandum of the costs and cash advances for the funeral you have arranged. Conforming with New York State regulations, we have separated the personnel and the facility charges. To be sure you understand what each item entails, we would like to explain more fully the following.


The charge for this item enables us to recover a proportionate share of the salaries paid to our Licensed Funeral Directors and Assistants. We are thereby able to maintain a skilled staff for the personal and professional services rendered to you and your family at the time they were required . It includes the arrangement, supervision and direction of the funeral, the coordination of various details, administrative personnel and all necessary attendants.


The charge for this item enables us to recover a proportionate share of the costs of building and operating these specialized facilities for your use and comfort. The amount charged varies according to the length of time they are used in fulfilling the arrangements you have made. Some of the specific cost covered are building maintenance and repairs; furnishings; funeral equipment; insurance; real estate taxes; air conditioning; light heat and power utilities; and cleaning.


This charge enables us to recover a proportionate share of the expense for our licensed staff associated with preparation of the body, and for the specialized facilities, professional equipment and supplies required for the custodial care of the body. These meet state and municipal standards for the proper sanitary care of the deceased.

While embalming is not usually required by law, common sense dictates that it is necessary in most instance. We require embalming when we have custody of the body in our funeral home for more than a limited time, for public viewing of the body, and in other circumstances under which normal decomposition of the body would present us with a practical problem.


Following a death there are many arrangements that must be supervised by a licensed funeral director. The maintenance of this service is unending. By that, we mean that the cost incurred enables us to maintain and staff our facility 24 hours every day of the year. Therefore, ours is a 168 hour work week and not the 40 Hr week which is the accepted standing, personal feeling, conform to each individual family's wishes and their personal and religious needs.

The basic arrangements fee is the largest service cost item we charge . The following items are included in that fee:


Complete Arrangements Supervision and Direction of all Services

A.Meeting with the family to:
Secure vital Statistics information
Obtaining obituary information
Complete itemized cost agreement
Oversee all aspects of services

B. Coordinate times of the following services as needed
Clergy, Necessary automotive equipment, Civic or other organizations, Fraternal Organizations, Cemetery or Crematory, Veterans Association.

C. Complete Death Certificate with Vital Statistics Information

D. Obtain the signature and medical information from attending physician or medical examiner.

E. File completed and signed certificate with Registrar of Vital Statistics in municipality where death occurred, and obtain a Burial/Transit Permit and as many certified copies requested by the family.

F. Call or deliver obituary information to all newspapers requested by the family.

G. Complete all necessary forms such as:
VA for flag, VA for allowance, VA for marker, cemetery, crematory, social security paperwork, taking the family to Social Security, Insurance paperwork, state and federal forms required by law. Also assisting families with Surrogate's Court

H. Answer all telephone calls give out funeral information to family and friends, fraternal organization members, business associates and florist with regard to funeral service to be held. Updating web site with correct information.

I. Coordinating with the florist selected by the family on dates and times, Setting up a funeral breakfast or luncheon for the family.


A. Maintain universal precautions and hygienically prepare remains to insure protection to personnel and the public.

B. Custodial care of deceased in a NYS Licensed OSHA regulated facility while coordination of paperwork is completed.


Complete cost and depreciation of service cars and there operations


  • Taxes Cleaning
  • Continuing Education House Cleaning & Supplies
  • Surgical Instruments & Supplies Building Maintenance
  • Inventory Ground Maintenance
  • Stationary & Supplies Maintenance of Autos
  • Advertising Promotion
  • Utilities Telephone
  • Insurance Workmen's Compensation
  • Unemployment Insurance Health Insurance
  • Malpractice Insurance General Liability Insurance


A. Assist in all of the above items

B. In addition to all of the above there a available licensed funeral director to respond to a family's needs, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

It should be noted that because of the nature of funeral service, many hours of training and specialized education takes place to insure that a competent and understanding person is there for the public. This is the commitment of the O'Connell-Murphy Funeral Home. This is the commitment we have made to our profession and to you our Valued Customer.
If you have any further questions or we can be of any help in any way, please do not hesitate to ask.




Studies show that the average person attends a funeral once every five years. Also, that the average person will make funeral arrangements twice in their lifetime. Given that information, we put together this booklet to provide information and express the views of this funeral home. As a funeral director I pledge to further the high standards of cremation on the highest level of integrity and to emphasize the importance of proper service.

Today more families are selecting cremation, but cremation isn't the only decision that a family has to make. As a funeral director I feel it is my responsibility to let you know all I can about cremation and your options. The following is the most frequently asked questions about cremation.

Is cremation a popular choice in the U.S.?

Cremation is the method of choice for a growing number of families in the United States & Canada. Cremation is the second most preferred form of final disposition in the U.S. The most common is earth burial. Cremation currently accounts for over 25% of all final dispositions. Cremation should be looked upon as simply an alternative to earth burial.

What is cremation?

Cremation is a heating process that reduces the human remains to cremated remains. Then the cremated remains are placed in an urn and buried or inurned in a mausoleum.

Why do people select cremation?

Cremation is simply a matter of preference and choice. People have various reasons for selecting cremation influenced by ethnic background or family tradition. The concept that cremation is selected because of perceived lower funeral costs or lack of land for earth burial is inaccurate. In rare instances land is a concern, most cemeteries still have 100- 150 years before land becomes a concern. Funeral costs are based on the fixed expenses and a family's selection of merchandise and services.

Do I need a Funeral Director?

Yes, in New York only a licensed funeral director can transport a person who has passed away, obtain necessary permits and authorizations and process legal documents required at the time of death. Your funeral director can also provide information about local laws and options. (Beware: some cemeteries try to mislead you to believe that you do not need a funeral director and sell you a cremation arrangement. Then when the death occurs you or your family are told that you need a funeral director.)
You should consult with a funeral director before doing anything.

What type of service can we have with cremation?

You can have a traditional service, contemporary service or a memorial mass. Please allow me to briefly explain each. A traditional or contemporary service can be had before the cremation of your loved one. This type of service offers a public viewing by both family and friends or a private viewing by family only. You also can have a closed casket visitation with no viewing. This type of service offers closure to the family, that chance to say good-bye. A memorial service or mass is held either at the funeral home or in your church with the cremated remains present in an urn. During this type of service the family will bring in photographs of their loved one and other mementos that will personalize the service. Your choices are unlimited. Every family should decide which type of service would help them cope with the loss.

How is a cremation service different from a traditional funeral service?

: It isn't. At least it doesn't have to be different. The extent and the content of a cremation service are entirely subject to the wishes of the family. They may choose as much formality or as little as they feel they want to have. They also have more options when cremation is chosen. Remember cremation is the alternative to earth burial and entombment.

What is the benefit of having a traditional funeral with cremation?

Visitation at the funeral home does have a great meaning and too often this is forgotten when cremation is being considered. We seem to think that if the body is not at the funeral home then there is no reason for family and friends to go there. In many cases, of course, the body is there. There is no reason why a body cannot be prepared for a viewing and then be cremated. Cremation should not have any bearing on the visitation. The family needs the presence of friends during this trying time. Most of the help you will receive during this time of grief will come from friends. A visitation provides a great time to talk about the loss and to celebrate the life that was lived. Our funeral home provides a quiet and restful setting for those visiting the family. The family home can become quite chaotic during the days of mourning. It is a wonderful respite to go to the funeral home for an uninterrupted time with family and friends.

What types of caskets are available with cremation?

There are a wide variety of options available with cremation caskets. If you have chosen to have a more traditional funeral then your choice of casket will become more important. The funeral home has a wide range of caskets made of several different types of material ranging from minimum metals to cardboard containers. Most cremation caskets come in a half couch. This is due to the fact that they are 98% combustible. Below are some pictures of cremation caskets.



Is an Urn necessary?

Cremated remains are often returned in a small temopary continer constucted of either plastic or cardboard. Many people prefer to have the cremated remains placed into an urn. In some cases, these urns will have a very special meaning. People may elect to purchase urns that they consider approprite to, or symbolic, of the deceased. The O'Connell-Murphy Funeral Home has a wide variety of urns to meet the needs of our families. The urns range from the more decorative urn, designed to remain in the home, to those more appropriate for burial. You can add a personal touch to the urn you have selected. There are many designs to choose from. You can also add names, dates of birth and death, a special verse or favorite quotation to further enhance the urn. Medallions depicting the various branches of armed service are available as are appliques to further individualize your urn. This ornamentation can be used alone or in conjunction with an engraved name, dates or other personal information. We'll take the time to work with you to insure we create the personal memorial that immortalizes your loved one and highlights their unique lifestyle, interests or other aspect of their life. If you are planning to use a columbarium, urn garden, mausoleum or cemetery we will need to review any requirements they may have. There are many types of urns, from cast bronze to hardwoods to marble to sheet bronze to pewter to ceramic. Also, we offer single urns and companion urns. Below are a few of the urns that we offer ( if we were to show you all of the urns avaiable we would need at least 200 more pages to do so).


Can we scatter the cremated remians?

While new York State has no law regulating the ultimate disposition of cremated remains, it is not appropriate to dispose of them upon public domain or upon the private property of another person. (public domain is any land owned by Federal, State, County or Municipal government and includes forests, lakes and streams). Also, the Federal Aviation Administration specifically prohibits throwing anything from an airplane. Essentially, the disposition of cremated remains may properly be done only upon one's private property or within a cemetery or mausoleum. Disposition on one's prpoerty should be avoided because, in due course, the propetry will one day be owned by someone else. If you do decide to scatter the remains on your own property, however, we recommend that it be done by a friend rather than a member of the immediate family. Cremated remains are not ashes. They are bone fragments (frequently recognizable) and scattering them may be an unpleasant emotional task for someone of close relationship to the deceased. New York State law does permit the retention of cremated remains in your home. If you should move to another state with the remains in your possession however, you will be subject to the laws of that state, which may prohibit such possession. Also, before deciding to keep the remains in your home you may wish to consider what will become of them after your own death. The recommended method of disposition of cremated remains is placement in a perpetual care cemetery or mausoleum niche.The cost is nominal and the placement is permanet. In addition to providing a lasting memorial for the deceased, it affords the surviving family an opportunity to visit as the years go by; to remember and reflect.

Can a person be cremated immediately?

Yes, in some instances. Many states have a forty eight hour waiting period from the time of death until the time a person can be cremated. This situation does necessitate embalming and/or refrigeration services when available. In all cases there is a time frame for obtaining necessary information and filing required permits and authorizations.

Does Cremation affect the Grief Process?

With any method of funeral or final disposition three aspects are important. The first is that survivors are comfortable with the choices made. Second, people often find it therapeutic to observe a death with some form of ceremony or memorial service. Third, many people find it helpful to have a place of memorialization of the person who died where they can visit later. As long as these three considerations are dealt with the form of final disposition should not affect the grieving process. Psychologically people need to deal with their grief at the time of loss. This therapy enhances one's capacity to cope with the adjustment period which follows.

How does the cost of cremation compare with the cost of burial or entombment?

The basic charge for an immediate cremation is somewhat less than a traditional burial. However, with so many items of service available to the family, both in the funeral service before and in the mode of final disposition, often it is not possible to make an accurate comparison. Again, the family has the option to select as much or as little as they want. With cremation there are many options.

What are the benfits of pre-planning my funeral wishes?

Pre-Planning your funeral is an act of love, caring and consideration to family members left behind. Pre-Planning alleviates painful decisions at a difficult time and also insures you that the funeral will be carried out according to your wishes and beliefs. The O'Connell-Murphy Funeral Home is well versed in medicaid irrevocable trust accounts and regulations. Also, having experience with Veterans Benefits and Railroad Benefits.

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The best time to begin making your prearrangements is now, while you're thinking about it. While some people in their 40's and 50's may think it's too early to preplan, people who do say that prearranging their funerals is smart financial planning and gives them added peace of mind knowing they aren't leaving this burden to family members. By taking time now to collect cost information and calmly making choices related to your own funeral arrangements, you'll be protecting your family against the stress of having to make these decisions at a time of extreme emotional stress. This way you can carefully choose specific items you want and need ... and pay for them now.

Today, more individuals and families are making the decision to prearrange their funerals than ever before. Because of the factors such as inflation, fewer extended family members living close by, and other changes in our society, planning your own funeral can make a lot of sense. In a recent survey, these were the most common reasons people gave for prearranging their own funerals:

  • Lets your wishes be known.
  • Reduces stress for friends and family at an already emotional time.
  • Saves money
  • Guarantees your family will never have to pay more for your funeral - no matter what happens with inflation.
  • Shows you care.
  • Relieves your loved ones of the financial responsibility.


There are a growing number of options available to the public today when seeking to preplan and prepay their final wishes. We can tailor a plan that's right for you. From single pay plans to monthly payments designed to meet anyone's budget concerns, our staff would be pleased to outline the choices available.

Pre-paying can protect you and your family from future inflationary trends while providing the piece of mind of knowing that they will be cared for after you are gone. Call our office at 823-0124 and ask to speak with John Murphy. I will be happy to set up an appointment so you can review all the information available and answer any questions you might have.

Call today and start your protection right away.

Grief Support

Grief Support

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Upcoming Community Events

Upcoming Community Events


Remember 9/11 Memorial Patriot Walk

To commemorate the 13th Anniversary of 9/11 and Patriot Day, Veterans & Family Memorial Care Providers nationwide are sponsoring a Remember 9/11 Memorial Patriot Walk to honor those who lost their lives on that fateful day and to show appreciation to the brave heroes who defend and protect our great nation.

The entire community is invited to participate in the one mile Patriot Walk which begins at
11:00 AM on September 13th on the grounds of O'Connell-Murphy Funeral Home, 2286 South Park and ends at David McKeever post 64 .O'Connell-Murphy Funeral Home is the area’s exclusive VFMC Provider:

We are proud to sponsor this event with David McKeever post 64 and Stingray Cheer leaders. Following the walk there will be hot dogs and refreshments served at David McKeever post 64. This is a rain or shine event.

For more information please call John Murphy at O'Connell-Murphy Funeral Home 823-0124.


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